Being Human

-What exactly are you saying? You are dating a woman? I mean you are married for God sake.

> It’s perfectly natural. She too did not know she could fall for a woman.

-I really don’t wanna talk about it. You are 35. Mother of a 6 year old daughter.

>And these are statistics that I know better than anyone.

This is a fictitious conversation.  And all who raise their eyebrows please read on from here. And those who think the above conversation is between an independent individual and an uninformed poor soul- you may choose to quit. Or read on if my narrative excites you.

I am an Indian woman living in the city of joy- Kolkata. I am moderately educated. And I do earn my living. And the very next question your mind would ask is “Is she a lesbian?” My answer to that is- No, I’m not. The next question that might come to your mind is “Is she a godforsaken social activist?” My answer again is a no. Now you are definitely confused about my stand point. Many of you are also concluding- This surely is a publicity stunt to make this post popular. Well, who does not want to make their posts popular, when Google Adsense is generous enough to make us earn from our blogs! 

Yes I definitely want a lot of eyes on my blog post. But that is not the only agenda. I write this because I represent a very weird class of the society. The class who is confused and totally traumatized about a lot of things. In fact you can even say I’m moon-struck. Err, Lunatic for the less poetic ones. From the core of my heart I believe Homo sapiens do not have the much heralded thing called Orientation.

Hey, wait. This is not a scholastic article one orientation and human psyche. Wohoo! No! No! I’m a complete moron when it comes to theories. I am just here to tell you what my mind tells me. And I totally trust my not so sound mind. Ok, so getting back to what I was saying. Human beings possess a particular gift that the whole animal kingdom lacks. No prizes for guessing the answer. Yes, it is the power to think. Long time back when I dared to study Masters in English we read a Latin phrase by Descartes. It said- Dubito Ergo Cogito Ergo Sum. So, just before you quit this page and blame me of euphemism, I’ll explain the phrase. It literally translates to- I doubt therefore I think therefore I am.  The whole purpose of quoting Mr. Descartes here is to make me feel a bit less afraid of my ignorance.

So, now that I have a strong theory to back me, I can safely conclude that Human beings exist because they think. And by the natural virtue of thinking they detach themselves of mere organic or hormonal preferences. Their preferences rise above the organic need and become a bit more cerebral. Like the chose to cook the edibles instead of consuming them raw. They chose to farm and till instead of preying. They clothed their body instead of being beautifully naked. Each time it was a choice of the cerebra and not the instinct. And thus they became a different part of the creation. They chose their own nature- therefore “defying nature’s law”- is a null and void statement for human beings.

If we are ok with nuclear weapons, cannibalism, rape, child abuse and many other choices that defy animal kingdoms’ laid down rules- Why are we so averse to one choice, the only choice that makes a human humane-i.e., love. We choose our partners out of love. Never really out of rules. So if that college girl’s heart goes out to the lady who is busy attending her kids- it’s natural. If that guy drools over his neighbor six pack-it’s delicious. And hey, that girl is as much a woman as you- ho snuggles in the bosom of your husband each night. And that guy is as much a man as you who just watched an amazing Manchester united match!

Come on  people; be proud of your cerebra. We are blessed by cognition. Why fake our own existence? By putting meaningless tags of hetero, homo, bi and even ‘try’ for some (naughty me!)! Love like there’s no tomorrow. Al you need is a whole lot of love and a dash of libido. The latter by the way is no less important. Wink-wink.

Cheers to being human- Now let’s behave like one!